This is what I have learnt about self-love:
1. It's looking after myself physically and mentally.
2. It's being gentle with myself.
3. It's making sure that I tells the truth which belongs to me without the fear of being rejected.
4. It's being aware of my capacities and limitations.
5. It's a constant dialogue with myself and checking where I am with myself and other humans.
6. It's making sure that I take the ownership of my life.
7. It has nothing to do with being arrogant and self-centred.
8. It's nothing to do with sacrificing myself in order to make others happy.
9. It's allowing myself to be.
10. It's a path, it's a challenge, it's a process. It's hard work.
When talking to a friend few days ago I said that I feel I have finally realized that there won't be anyone to rescue me and that I am the only person who can really influence my life. I am the engine. S. said that it seems to him that everybody really carries this fantasy of a savior or a good god-mother equipped with an array of magic spells to help us out. A normal human thing. We concluded that indeed we don't get saved by anyone but we do get and meet people on our way who help us out. People who we encounter to teach us something when we are ready to receive a lesson. (If we are not ready the lesson will come back to us again and again, and again. In the next life as well, won't it, Shirley?)
And so I met women and a Man who gave me examples of how to love oneself and live by this principle.